Learn more about your relationship style, whether
you are single or in a relationship.
Both singles and couples can take an Attachment
Style Quiz to see if your relating style may put you at
risk for relationship trouble.
Below are four general relationship styles that people
Place a checkmark next to the style that best describes you
or is closest to the way you are.
____ A. It is easy for me to become emotionally close to others.
I am comfortable depending on them and having them depend
on me. I don’t worry about being alone or having others
not accept me.
____ B. I am uncomfortable getting close to others. I want
emotionally close relationships, but I find it difficult to
trust others completely, or to depend on them. I worry that
I will be hurt if I allow myself to become too close to others.
____ C. I want to be completely emotionally intimate with
others, but I often find that others are reluctant to get
as close as I would like. I am uncomfortable being without
close relationships, but I sometimes worry that others don’t
value me as much as I value them.
____ D. I am comfortable without close emotional relationships.
It is very important to me to feel independent and self-sufficient,
and I prefer not to depend on others or have others depend
This questionnaire assess attachment style. If you
chose A, you have secure attachment and likely have successful
relationships. If you chose B, C, or D, you tend to have one
of three types of insecure attachment, which puts you at risk
for relationship difficulty. If you would like to learn more
about anxious attachment or insecure love, check out the Reading
List. The section “Books
on Unhealthy Relationships” has several informative
books on this topic, many of which refer to the concept as
If insecure love is a problem for you, Coupling
Connection can help you break out of the pattern
and build a more satisfying, loving relationship. See Services
for more information.