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Quarterly, Coupling Connection will review a book on dating or relationships. See which books are worthy of being included in your library! Book reviews appear in the Denver quarterly publication Savvy Singles Magazine, a resource for Denver singles including dating articles, events, and information.

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Book Review Archive

He's Just Not That Into You (Winter, 2006)

Love Smart by Dr. Phil (Spring, 2006)

Calling in The One: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life (Summer 2006)


Why You’re Still Single:
The Things Your Friends Would Tell You If You Promised Not To Get Mad
By Evan Marc Katz and Linda Holmes

Reviewed by Jennifer Oikle, Ph.D.

Why You’re Still Single is another slim, witty dating book written by a man and woman hoping to help you find love. Following in the tradition of He’s Just Not That Into You, each brief chapter has a topic for which Katz provides the male perspective and Holmes gives you the female scoop. Even though the book’s target audience is single women, most of the insights are gender neutral.

Although the authors promise a new approach to the age-old question, “Why are you still single?,” their answer, “Maybe you are shooting yourself in the foot,” is neither new nor terribly insightful if you’ve done your fair share of self-help consumption. Nevertheless, it’s an entertaining review of the major mistakes many singles make, keeping them from finding or keeping The One.

Most chapters have at least one succinct gem that hits the nail on the head. Some of my favorites (see if you are guilty of any):

…I learned that it wasn’t women who sucked- it was my decision making.

Repeat this to yourself one thousand times: screwed up people are not more interesting than people with their heads together.

…Playing games is a great way to attract men who like games.

…Only he can change himself. And if you can’t accept him as he is, you should probably let him go.

You have one choice to make and that’s whether you’re going to let all the worst guys you’ve ever known live rent-free in your head for the next 20 years.

With the clever chapter headings and the light hearted, amusing tone this volume is an easy read. However, Katz is more engaging than Holmes. With him you laugh naturally, while with her, you get the sense that she’s trying too hard to be funny- which is a little distracting, as is her over use of the f-word.

So, if you’re still searching for true love, a few evenings worth of bedtime reading will enable you to peruse the 29 possible mistakes that could be getting in your way. You’ll probably recognize many of these obstacles in your dating history and there’s a good chance that one or more is still creating a roadblock on your journey toward romance. Because of this, it’s worth your time.

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