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He’s Just Not That Into You
by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo

Listen up all you savvy singles. Are you looking for a sure fire way to minimize what seems like the inevitable pain, strain, and drain of dating? Then run, don’t walk, to your nearest bookstore and grab a copy of He’s Just Not That Into You. Now men, don’t be fooled by the title. Although the book’s target audience is women, the advice works well for men too, especially if you don’t mind translating women-speak into man-speak. Plunk this tiny tome down on your night stand, make it mandatory nightly reading after Jay Leno, and follow it like a religion. Don’t worry, it’s a lot easier to read than your average biblical text (you’ll probably get through it in a couple of sittings). And thanks to the comedic flair of the authors, it’s a lot of fun. You’ll find yourself laughing out loud on more than one occasion. If not, consider yourself one of the lucky few who doesn’t recognize themselves in these humorous descriptions of dating don’ts. And for those of you who hate pouring over yards of text, you’ll appreciate that each short chapter is organized to ensure that you don’t miss the major dating point. As a special bonus, your self esteem should receive a little boost, as the authors routinely reinforce that you deserve to be treated with the utmost care and respect.

The major premise of this book is that people spend a lot of needless time and tears on relationships that are going nowhere. According to the authors, the red flags of doom are everywhere- if only we open our eyes wide enough to see them and do something about it. Namely, move on already. We’ve all been there. We’ve just met someone we really like and they seem to like us back. We’ve gazed at each other over steaming lattes, sweated together hiking up the nearest fourteener, and kissed giddily under a starry sky. But before long, we find ourselves making excuses for their less than stellar behavior. We tell ourselves, “He must be really busy at work this week. That is why he hasn’t called.” Or, “She is such a sweet person, she must be caring for her ill grandmother. That’s why I haven’t seen her in three weeks.” Or, “Surely, he must be pinned under a 2-ton boulder. Otherwise I just know he would have returned my email.”

Deep down, we all know that when we utter something similar to these phrases, it is time to rethink where our relationship is headed. However, when the glow of a new romantic prospect starts to wane, it can be really hard to be honest with ourselves. The heady feeling of new love can be so powerful and so addictive, that we often turn a blind eye to important warning signs. We can find ourselves putting up with all sorts of bad behavior that we don’t deserve, hoping that the sparks will return so that this time the story can have a happy ending. But this book, in chapter after witty chapter, will remind you of all the tell-tale signals that your new potential partner is not the perfect one for you. And the thoughtful authors will repeatedly prompt you to recognize that you should never settle for less when you deserve better. How easy it is to forget that! But, the sooner you are able to recognize this fact, accept it, and move on, the sooner you will be available to find the partner who is right for you. After all, that’s the whole point of dating, right? To find the ideal partner for you, while keeping the broken hearts and unnecessary effort, both yours and theirs, to a minimum. Any book that can help you achieve this goal is a must-read. Follow this book’s advice, as hard as it can be at times, and you’ll stay on the path to finding Mr. or Ms. Right.

Quick Summary: This book is concise, witty, and clever, but most important of all, provides sound dating advice.

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