week, we'll be delivering smart and fresh relating
tips. We know you are busy, so let these quick ideas inspire
you to create your ideal relationship! Each edition will include
helpful information in these three categories:
- Dating – tips on finding and keeping the
- Mating – take the Passion Perks challenge
and perk up your love life!
- Relating – tips on making your connection
We'll also be including news of note for singles
and couples, from Coupling Connection and all around the US,
keeping you abreast of relationship happenings you may find
Remember, information is only good if you USE it. Research
shows that if you don't use a new piece of information within
two weeks, you won't ever use it! So if you want an extraordinary
relationship, try something new today!
you know that Feb 7- Feb 14 is Marriage Week USA!!!
with us by trying the tips below to strengthen your relationship!
I know everyone agrees that the KEY to trouble free
dating is honesty! But, not everyone is honest, right? How
many times has a new potential partner suddenly disappeared
on you? Poof! Without warning: no call, no email, no explanation.
Besides being rude, it just makes dating no fun! So make a
vow to yourself to NEVER, EVER POOF! The clearer you can make
your intentions, the better.
Action Step: Don't leave people
hanging. Whether you like someone or not, make sure you find
a nice way to let them know!
Want more info on Poofing?
we'll send you an article on the subject, complete with a
simple strategy to let someone know that you are not interested
in pursuing things further.
Remember when you
were a kid? You were so excited about Christmas morning that
you couldn't wait to open those presents! That's the power
of Anticipation. Anticipation is a tool you can use to spice
up any part of your life, but especially your love life. These
days, a lot of people get so busy and so tired that they forget
about sex! Don't let this happen to you. Try this instead:
Plan ahead and pick a time for making love. Then, that morning
let your partner know what's in store for them later that
day. Flirt like old times. In the afternoon, send them a sexy
email or voicemail. During the day, both partners should spend
some time thinking about how good it will feel later on- let
foreplay take the whole day! Try to get home a little earlier
than your partner and set the scene: candles, music, maybe
a hot bath, whatever your partner enjoys. If you've both played
along all day, you'll be in the mood and ready to go relax
If you are a woman, and you take the initiative to get this
started, your partner will love it. Don't be afraid to use
the power of your imagination during the day to help get you
in the mood. If you are a man, focus on letting her know how
attractive you find her and how special she is to you, this
will increase her desire for physical intimacy.
Passion Perks Challenge: Practice
using Anticipation to rev up your sex life.
Attitude of Gratitude
After a while, most relationships lose their sparkle.
But it doesn't have to be this way! Do you know what keeps
love alive, year in and year out? An attitude of gratitude!
Many people didn't grow up in a super positive household,
where people were always expressing appreciation to one another.
So, giving compliments doesn't always come naturally. Or if
it did, it dwindled after the dating stage. But, frequent
appreciation is one of the keys to making your partner feel
adored, loved, and cherished! Make it a habit to express your
Attitude of Gratitude toward your partner more than once a
Action Step: Find something
to thank your partner for or let them know you appreciate
something. It can be about their behavior or just who they
are as a person. Find something else to be grateful for and
Want more info on Gratitude?
we'll send you a full article about the power of appreciation.
Sick of being single and ready to
get started on your path to the perfect partner?
Take advantage of two exciting opportunities.
For a limited time, Inventories are half off! Clarify
the characteristics of your perfect partner and learn how
to get out of your relationship ruts. A powerful step toward
an extraordinary relationship. Cost: $40.
*NEW* Teleclass: How
to Avoid Marrying a Jerk(ette)
Join other singles to learn everything you need to
know to pick the right partner for you and grow a healthy,
happy relationship. Info no single should be without! Seriously!
Class will meet by telephone for an hour, once a
week for four weeks. Time to be determined by participants'
schedules. Cost: $40
Class is also offered as a regular in-person seminar
at Singles University in Denver, Colorado. Upcoming classes
in March and April. See Coupling Connection website or www.singles-university.com
for more info.
See the website for more information on either of
these opportunities or email
if you are interested!
Want to learn more? The How
To Avoid Marrying a Jerk(ette) program has recently recieved
lots of media attention!
- The Feburary 2006 issue of Oprah
magazine has an article entitled "What's Timing
Got to Do With It?" featuring information about how to
grow a healthy relationship from this program.
- The Associated Press
recently ran an article about the US military has adopted
the Jerk(ette) Program to help it's soldiers make smart relationship
decisions and reduce the high military divorce rate. Click
on link to read it: AP
- Dr. Van Epp, the creator of the Jerk(ette) program
was recently interviewed on FOX news
about the military's use of the program. See the interview
on the Jerk website. Click this link to the homepage, then
scroll down to the middle of the page for the interview link.
Link: FOX interview
popular internet dating site E-Harmony is delving into the
marital world by offering a new "marriage wellness service."
For $75, couples can fill out a 310-item online questionnaire
concerning communication, romance, sex and other topics. You
then receive a computer-processed marriage profile that points
out strengths and possible problem areas.
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May your relationships bring you happiness,
Jennifer Oikle, Ph.D.
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