Coupling Connection - Dr. Jenn Oikle
Coupling Connection - Dr. Jenn Oikle

Welcome to RelationSmarts!

A Dating, Mating and Relating E-Newsletter

July 9, 2007

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Tips and Tools for an Extraordinary Relationship

Every other week, we'll be delivering fresh relating tips. Let these quick ideas inspire you to create your ideal relationship! Find smart tips in these three categories:

  • Dating - Ideas on finding and keeping the perfect partner
  • Mating - Take the Passion Perks challenge and perk up your love life!
  • Relating - Tips on making your connection Extraordinary

    Does an article strike a chord or remind you of a friend's situation? Please pass Relation Smarts on! Everyone deserves to have more love in their life!


Check out Dr. Jenn in the next edition (August) of Cosmopolitan magazine!

Ever wonder if jealousy can be good for your relationship? Find out in Cosmo next month!



I just returned from my fourth year volunteering at the Smart Marriages conference. This year it was held in Denver and I am excited to bring you all of the latest and greatest in how to create a fantastic relationship that lasts!

I'm also happy to announce that I got certified to offer the Prepare/Enrich Relationship Inventory for premarital and marital couples. One of the most popular Relationship Inventories in the country, it's backed by decades of research, making it one of the most effective tools to increase your happiness. If you are ready for a relationship checkup- learn more about it today!

Here: Prepare Inventory



Signs that a Guy is Getting Serious About You

Dr. Jenn's quotes in July's Cosmopolitan magazine caught the attention of the John Tesh Radio Show! Read this week's article (which summarized the Cosmo piece) on the Tesh website: Signs




Better Sex Through Yoga

A recent article in Tango magazine touted the benefits of yoga for your sex life. Not only does it reinvigorate your body, but you'll also increase your flexibility, learn to tune into bodily sensations, and practice clearing your mind of stressful clutter. All of which equals more powerful and intimate sex with your sweetie!

Passion Perks Challenge: Take a yoga class at your neighborhood gym or yoga studio. Or buy/rent a yoga video and practice at home together! You can also visit for free, daily full-length yoga videos!

Passion is important to the continued vitality of your relationship! That's why Dr. Jenn is available to come to your group (business, church, organization) to give a talk on keeping the passion alive. Email for more info.



You CAN Change your Partner, Sort Of

New research from Richard Mackey at Boston College suggests that you can change your spouse over time. Like over 20 years of marriage! He found that happily married couples were able to nudge their partner toward better habits over time, not by insisting on big changes or nagging, but by asking for tiny modifications. Think, "Honey, can you put your dishes in the sink tonight", versus "You NEVER put your dirty dishes away, you are such a slob!".

Mackey found that two decades of asking for such small behaviors resulted in changed partners, without the strife caused by traditional complaints. This gives us all hope!

Action Step: Ditch the nagging requests for big change and complaints and simply make small, positively worded requests from time to time.

Relation Tip: Do you do something that drives your partner batty? Try your best to be thoughtful and adjust your behavior without being asked. This will make your parnter more willing to adjust their own annoying habits.



Don't Miss This One!

Diana Price-Fish Cancer Foundation Presents:
Hot Summer Knights 8th Annual Bachelor Auction

Wednesday, July 18, 2007
Sing Sing, 6-9:00 PM

Ladies bid on a date with the hottest bachelor's in Denver!
And MEN join the party afterward at 9:30 at Sing Sing.
One of the summer's biggest fun-filled nights!
More info:

Summer's Here! That means Marty's Parties are BACK!

Great chance to meet a large group of professional singles!

"Socializing for Professionals"

Thursday, July 12th from 5:30 to 9:45.
at the Glenmoor Country Club (singles 38 & over).

Upcoming party dates are:
August 9, and September 13th
$20.00 at the door (cash,check) includes dancing, hors d' oeuvres, mixer game, networking table, door prizes, free parking (car pooling a plus) and the beautiful indoor/outdoor venue for the summer! Dress is business/dressy with a coat OR a tie required for the gentlemen. No jeans are allowed at the Club, thanks!

Hosted by Marty Pickert. Call 303-649-9125 for more information, or email


Join us for Savvy Singles Book Club
with local writer Christie Hartman,
author of Dating the Divorced Man

Learn how to tell if a divorced person is ready to date and to decide
if dating a divorced person is right for you!

Tues July 24th, Scooter Joes Coffee, Denver 7-9pm

Learn more:


*NEW* Singles Resource

An online resource guide for Colorado Singles!Includes an event calendar (you can also sign up to receive it via email), referrals for area singles services, and tip of the week. Brought to you by Beth Anderson, of Cotton Wood Connection.

Learn more:

Singlocity will also be printing a hard cover version of their resources! Know any good businesses that serve singles that should be listed? Or maybe even your own business!? Contact Beth for more info: email



*NEW* Ready for a couple checkup? Want to strengthen or reinvigorate your relationship? Then the Prepare/Enrich Inventory is for you!! Email for more info or learn more here: Prepare Inventory


Do you have a topic, idea, question, or concern you'd like to have addressed in an upcoming newsletter? Email us!

Know someone who could use a little RelationSmarts? Feel free to forward the newsletter to family and friends!

May your relationships bring you the happiness you deserve,

Dr. Jenn

Jennifer Oikle, Ph.D.


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