week, we'll be delivering smart and fresh relating
tips. We know you are busy, so let these quick ideas inspire
you to create your ideal relationship! Each edition will include
helpful information in these three categories:
- Dating - tips on finding and keeping the perfect
- Mating - take the Passion Perks challenge and
perk up your love life!
- Relating - tips on making your connection Extraordinary
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check out news of note and announcements for singles and couples!
We'll be keeping you abreast of relationship happenings
you may find useful.
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Smarts on! Everyone deserves to have more love in their life!
Remember, information is only good if you USE it. Research
shows that if you don't use a new piece of information within
two weeks, you won't ever use it! So if you want an extraordinary
relationship, try something new today!
Couldn't make last
month's FREE Date Smart Coaching Call?
worries, it's recorded.
Don't miss the
Transformative Tree of Love Exercise!
Learn more here: Date Smart.
This call will be available for replay until our next free
call on February 26, Soulmate Secret Keys. To listen, call
the Playback Number any time: (641) 985-5000, Access Code:
Did You Miss "Dump Your Significant Jerk Week?"
Are you involved in a dating relationship
that you know isn't quite right for you, but still,
you hang on? Then last week was for you! The purpose of Dump
Your Significant Jerk Week is to help you open your eyes,
clearly assess your situation, and give you the push you need
to move on! If a relationship hasn’t been satisfying
for a while and nothing is changing, it’s time to face
the facts that this isn’t the right partner for you.
By letting go and moving on, you are actually creating space
for real love to enter your life. Until you do, Mr. or Ms.
Right will only be a fantasy.
How do you know if it's time to break
it off and start with a clean slate? While it might seem complicated,
really, it's not. It all comes down to two simple questions:
Is this person treating me the way I want to be treated for
the rest of my life? And how do I feel with this person in
my life? The answers to both questions should be very positive-
because the right relationship will feel good the 95% of the
time and your partner should be meeting your needs. If that’s
not happening, it’s time to let go.
It's not too late! If you are involved with the wrong partner-
dig deep and find the courage to move on. After all, wouldn't
that be the best Valentine's Day gift of all? A new beginning!
That way, by the time Valentine's Day 2008 rolls around- you
have the chance to celebrate a very different kind of gift:
your perfect partner.
Want to make sure you aren't stuck with the same problem next
year? Coupling Connection's Soulmate or Stalemate workshop
at Colorado Free University is designed to empower you to
identify the patterns that keep you from creating the love
you deserve and learn to build new habits that will attract
the perfect partner. Enroll
for next date: Sunday March 18th, 2:30pm, Denver
In the news: Dr.
Jenn appeared on Denver's Channel 7 ABC morning news last
week to talk about Dump Your Significant Jerk Week and how
her workshop can help singles finally break free from the
patterns of the past. A downloadable video link will be available
Getting to YES!
Start Your Woman's Desire with the
Keys to Connection
Ever wonder where your woman's desire disappeared
to? Well, it's an often forgotten fact that women NEED to
feel connected BEFORE they become interested in sex. So, if
you'd like to boost your women's libido- your job is to meet
her needs for three types of connection: body, heart, and
mind. She needs to feel connected with you on all
three levels on a consistent
basis before you'll find her "in the mood."
This week, we'll focus on the mind and in future
editions, we'll cover heart, and body. In connecting with
her mind, your woman want three things:
1. To Be Known
- So ask questions: what happened today, what do you think
about X, what's your opinion on Y? Bonus points for asking
about something she told you would happen that day. Extra
bonus points for asking how she felt.
2. To Know You
- So tell about yourself. Share your thoughts about the day,
things that happened, what you saw, or heard about. Bonus
for telling your feelings about what happened. Remember, for
most women, nothing is too small a detail to share.
3. To Know You Are Thinking
- So stay in contact and do thoughtful things. Email
or call once a day or more, just to connect and say hi. Send
her a link about something important to her. Bring her home
something that lets her know you were thinking of her. Call
on the way home and ask if she needs anything. Do something
to help her out.
Passion Perks Challenge:
Work on connecting with your women's mind this week! Try things
you don't normally do and add more of the things you already
do. Think about the things that would be most meaningful to
her as an individual and implement them.
Next week: Getting
to Yes- Connecting with the Heart
Passion is important
to the continued vitality of your relationship! That's why
Dr. Jenn is available to come to your men's group (business,
church, organization) to give a talk on Getting to Yes! Email
for more info.
What Your Man REALLY Wants for Valentine's Day
So much attention
gets paid to what women want for Valentine's Day...but let's
not forget about the other part of the twosome. Valentine's
Day is a vital chance to show your man that you know what's
important to him too! And what's the most powerful way to
express your undying affection in a way any man would appreciate?
Reignite your Inner Vixen! Yup, that's right. It's probably
been awhile since he's seen that sexy lass he fell in love
with...and chance's are, he really misses that sassy, sensual
side of you. And nothing would make his love burn brighter
this holiday, then YOU taking the reins and surprising him
with a sexy romp that he's not likely to forget any time soon.
Not only will this
escapade feel great for you both physically, but it has many
wonderful side effects, including boosting your bond. When
you pursue him- you are reaffirming his manhood and reassuring
him that you find him irresistible- a gift he will be grateful
for. Plus, it allows you to feel powerfully attractive and
desirable. And it reminds you both why you are lucky to have
chosen each other!
Action Step: Pull out all the
stops and surprise him with the Vixen inside of you! Tease
him early by sending a flirty email or voicemail before he
comes home. Surprise him when he enters the door and finds
you barely dressed in a sexy outfit. And continue to stay
in charge as you orchestrate an evening filled with pleasures
Relation Tip: You might
be surprised to realize that when you meet your man's need
in this intimate way, he'll be more willing to help meet your
needs- outside the bedroom!
After the honeymoon phase of
a relationship, with kids, careers, and stress, women often
lose touch with their inner vixen. Dr. Jenn is available to
come speak to your women's group about reigniting your inner
vixen! Learn how bringing out your passion can suddenly turn
your man into Prince Charming: talking more, taking out the
garbage, and putting the kids to bed! Email
for more info!
need something to do in Denver on Valentine's Day?
in the City Parties at all 3 Purple Martini Locations Tonight!
Soulmate Revolution 2007!
you serious about finding a life partner? Then join Coupling
Connection and other like-minded singles in *NEW* fun, effective,
and life changing programs designed to make 2007 the year
you find your soulmate! Now is the time! The relationship
you've been waiting for IS out
there. Are you ready???
a program or service for every stage of dating and budget:
At the Glenmoor Country Club (singles
38 & over) will meet on the second Thursday of the month
- March 8th, 2007, from 5:30 to 9:45.
Hosted by Marty Pickert of www.partiesbymarty.com.
Call 303-649-9125 for more information, or email firstname.lastname@example.org.
Treasure Hunt- Singles Edition
Don't have a date for Valentine's Day? No problem!
Do something cool and unusual AND meet other singles while
you have fun! Learn more here: Singles
Power Up Your Valentine's
Imago is one of the most powerful
couples workshops and therapies ever! And their institute
plans special V-day celebrations all over the country to help
you connect more powerfully with your partner this year. Inexpensive,
fun, and short so you can still have your romantic evening.
Find a "Keep It Real" event near you: http://www.practiceimago.com/
Short Cuts To Connection
Staring January 2007, Coupling Connection
is offering personalized, small group programs for couples
who are ready to ignite their love and keep the passion alive.
Focused on shortcuts to real connection for busy couples-
get a group of your friends together and support each other
in building a lifetime of love! More info coming soon!
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Jennifer Oikle, Ph.D.
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