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You Missing That Holiday Glow?
Use the VisionShift
to Start Searching For Your Soulmate
Ok, we are officially into the holiday season! How
was your Thanksgiving? I hope you found many reasons to be
But for many singles, the holidays can be a bummer
time of year. Especially if you fall into the trap of idealizing
the holidays as the perfect time for sharing with that special
someone. Even if you make it through Christmas, many can't
face New Year's without The One to celebrate with.
Come on, admit it. We' ve all fallen into that trap
at least once or twice.
But not you, not this year!
That's because we're starting our New Year's Resolutions
NOW- with a VisionShift.
Between You and Your Soulmate?
Really, only 3 things. Your attitudes, emotions,
and actions. And one always leads to the next. Your attitude
about something causes you to have a feeling, and your action
is determined based on what you think and feel. They are always
Let's focus on your attitudes and the emotions they
cause. In the above scenario, you become depressed on New
Year's because of some belief or attitude you have.
What belief is it for you?
It could be one of thousands of beliefs that are
holding you back. Some examples:
I'll never find someone.
I'm getting too old, no one will want me.
All the men I meet are pigs.
I don't deserve real love.
I meet wants me for my money.
Every time I fall in love, it goes all wrong.
Fill in the blank with your favorite negative attitude.
Now, that belief causes you to feel some negative
emotion. It could be anything: sadness, depression, irritation,
resignation, frustration, hopelessness, helplessness. You
get the idea. No fun, for sure.
And when you are thinking those things and feeling
those emotions, I can guarantee you won't attract any quality
prospects. In fact, those thoughts and feelings don't generate
any quality actions either. You'll probably stay home, where
you have zero chance of meeting The One.
But, even if you did go out, with your body sending out the
language of negative attitudes and emotions, you will never,
ever meet the right person. And you can't fake it either.
So what are you to do?
Right now, you are going to shift your perspective
from the past, which maybe didn't work out so hot, to the
You'll do this by applying a VisionShift.
Here are the steps:
1. Create your Inspiring Intention
for the future.
2. Create a powerful visualization
which will help you feel your intention.
3. Create a habit of feeling your Intention with practice
of the visualization.
4. Create an action plan to get you there and follow through.
By effectively following these steps, you will switch
your focus from the perceived "failures" of the
past, to the beautiful vision of what you are creating for
your future, starting today.
The simple act of changing your focus, will change
your attitude, your emotion, and your action- which will all
lead you toward your goal of finding your soulmate.
Today, I'll say a bit about the first step and in
following editions, we'll cover the rest- in time to have
your mind whipped into soulmate shape for the New Year. (See
below section for a attitude shifting tool.)
Create your Inspiring Intention by writing a sentence or paragraph
that describes what your ideal outcome is, in present tense
language. Then print it out, and post it everywhere so you
will see it several times each day. It becomes more powerful
if you add an image to the words (find free pictures and clipart
Soft Clip Art Online).
Ex. I have met a wonderful, amazing woman and we
are creating the most beautiful love imaginable.
Ex. I have met such a caring, giving guy, and together
we are living life to the fullest every day, laughing, loving,
playing, and growing together.
You get the idea, now go write yours- whatever inspires
you. Next time, we'll talk about how to round out the picture
of this fulfilling love with a visualization that supports
you toward finding real love.
me your Intention. By sharing it, you will feel more accountable
to following through! I'd love to hear what your glorious
intention for next year is!
Powerful Tool To Aid You In Your VisionShift
a fantastic Christmas gift!)
Most of us are terribly stuck in old
patterns, running the same thoughts over and over like a broken
record. We've run them so long, they've actually become like
deep ruts in our brains and are more easily triggered than
any new thought we try to have. That's why making a new habit
takes so long and so much work. And
why many of us give up before we are successful!
But I've found an exciting new tool
that can help you create new habits in your brain, much more
easily and effectively! I ran across these CD's accidentally
at the library! And found them so powerful
that I want you to know about them too!
They are powerful sound wave CD's from
a company called BrainSync. On the CD's are sound wave patterns
that put your brain into certain wave states, such as Delta,
Theta, Beta, etc. In these states, your brain is better able
to incorporate new thoughts and emotions, making the process
of change mush easier. Some of the CD's also have guided meditations,
and some have subliminal messages.
I've had several profound healing experiences
listening to them. I've tried 3 so far and am getting ready
to purchase more! They are even inexpensive, ranging from
I think it can really benefit you on
your journey of finding your soulmate. Rest assured that I
only ever recommend to you opportunities that I really feel
can help you achieve your goals.
The CD's come in many topics so check
them out today and see if there are ones that can help you
work toward your dreams, more effectively and efficiently
than ever more.
Visit BrainSync by clicking on the image
For all my singles, I recommend the
Attract Love CD.
If you have health concerns, I highly
recommend the Healing Meditation CD.
If you are being held back from achieving
your goals, whatever they are, Fulfill
Your Heart's Desire is an excellent one.
If you purchase one with only subliminal
messages, like Attract Love, I suggest you also try one with
a guided meditation, since I've found the spoken meditations
to be very powerful!!
But whatever your concern, there is
a program for you! Smoking, weight loss, sexuality, life purpose,
self esteem, creativity, learning, concentration, etc. They
would make an excellent holiday present or gift to yourself
for helping you achieve everything you deserve this New Year.
Check them out today at the below image
and get assistance on creating your own powerful VisionShift!
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Jennifer Oikle, Ph.D.
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