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Your Soulmate Success Mindset:
Staying Optimistic and Motivated with the SW X4 Strategy
One of the biggest complaints
I hear from singles is this: "But I am getting so discouraged.
I'm not getting anywhere. I feel like giving up!"
Hey- I hear you. I felt like that for a couple of
years, until one day, I didn't. That's because I finally met
But you don't have to wait until finding The One
to stay optimistic, encouraged, enthusiastic, and hopeful.
Lucky for you, all you have to do is switch your mindset from
one of scarcity to one of success.
Jack Canfield, made famous by the Chicken Soup for
the Soul series, has an acronym: SWSWSWSW. it stands for:
Some will. Some won’t. So what?
Jack's principle was for entrepreneur's
struggling to build a business. But this wise saying is a
jewel for singles on the search for a soulmate.
When you adopt this as your new mindset,
dating can become an adventure. It empowers you to seize the
moment, take more chances, get out of your rut, and most of
all keep on going!
In dating, some people will like
you, some people won't. So what?
In dating, some events will have tons of potential
suitors, some will have none. So what?
In dating, sometimes you'll be witty and charming,
and sometimes you'll sound like a fool. So what?
In dating, some relationships will last, most will not. So
The important point here is that at the end of every
supposed "failed" encounter, you've learned at least
one important lesson (probably many more actually): This person
isn't the one. That's GREAT. This means
that someone who is The ONE is out there WAITING for you to
So come on, what are you waiting for? Go out and
do something, anything, to keep you moving towards your goal
of creating a wonderful relationship with an amazing partner.
me! Share- what are you going to do this week to move
closer to your goal?!
Adopt this as your new mindset:
Some will. Some won’t. So what? Someone’s waiting.
Want other tips for shifting
into a positive mindset to make your soulmate search successful?
Check out these previous, related articles:
saying from Jack Canfield:
the heck- go for it anyway"
You've got nothing
to lose by trying. You like that blond you see every
day at Starbucks? If you don't ask her out, you'll never get
the date. If you do, you might. Might is certainly better
than never. If not, who cares? You are no worse off.
Same holds true
for most of life's situations and choices!
I just finished reading a book many
of you may be interested in:
Buried Alive Never Die by Karol K. Truman.
It discusses how negative feelings that we do not release,
many of which remain subconscious from our past, create powerful
negative effects in our lives, including ill health, poor
relationships, low self esteem, and financial hardship. If
you struggle with any of these things- and who doesn't!- I
highly recommend this book. It offers an interesting tool
to help us release these emotions so that we can be happy
and successful in all areas of our lives! In fact, if you
have health concerns, I think you need this book!
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Jennifer Oikle, Ph.D.
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