week, we'll be delivering smart and fresh relating
tips. We know you are busy, so let these quick ideas inspire
you to create your ideal relationship! Each edition will include
helpful information in these three categories:
- Dating – tips on finding and keeping the
- Mating – take the Passion Perks challenge
and perk up your love life!
- Relating – tips on making your connection
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check out news of note and announcements for singles and couples!
We'll be keeping you abreast of relationship happenings
you may find useful.
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Is Nobody Winking At Me?:
Top Ten Internet Dating Profile Mistakes
Read this week's
article on the website here: Avoiding
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you're committing profile blunders? Coupling Connection can
for more info.
Most people use some form of fantasy
to enliven their sex lives, whether they use it when they
are alone, their partner is away, or during sexual escapades.
That's good because, it's normal, it can work to prime the
body for maximal satisfaction, and it can add spice.
But many articles and books will tell
you to share your sexual fantasies with your partner! Beware!
Although this can be an effective tool to increase your sexual
satisfaction, depending on your self esteem and the health
of your relationship, it can also leave you or your partner
feeling unloved, insecure, jealous, etc- with a picture in
their mind that they can't get rid of!
For a safer version of sharing, instead
of asking your partner to share any fantasy, ask them to talk
about fantasies they have about you.
Those are the fantasies that you're apt to be able to do something
Passion Perks Challenge:
This week, spice up your sex life by each sharing one fantasy
you have about the other.
Behavior With Chips and Dip
I think Dr. Cheryl McClary is on to something! As
a professor at University of N.C., she studies couples and
has recently discovered the magical power of three little
ingredients: food, sex, and sports. According to her, if you
want to get your male partner's attention, you need to keep
in mind what motivates him.
So the next time you want to request a change in
your man, remember the power of some chips, dip, and a beer.
Bring him a snack and let him know what you need: "It
would be great to have my handsome husband ask me out once
a week!" The next day, reinforce your request, with a
sexy reminder. She just writes "From the one who's stuck
on you" on a sticky note and puts it on the zipper of
the pants he has set out to wear to work the next day."
Or tape two tickets to his favorite sporting event to the
mirror. The possibilities are endless- get creative, have
some fun. But above all, have some hope. Change IS possible,
with the right motivation!
Action Step: By giving what
is important to your partner, they become more willing to
give back to you!
Check out Dr. McClary's book:
"The Commitment Chronicles- the Power of Staying Together
Tools in your Dating Toolbox!
Dating can be scary, have you noticed? From starting
a conversation with someone you like . . . to asking someone
out . . . to disclosing the secret you’re afraid will
push your new love away . . . to meeting the parents . . .
to popping the question. The whole journey into the relationship
you want is filled with moments that may at times make you
feel mildly apprehensive, sweaty-palms nervous or downright
Wouldn’t it be nice to have a tool for managing
those nerves so you can be your best self, take the risks
you want to take and have a better chance of building the
life you want? How much easier the journey could be!
Have you ever heard of psychological acupressure?
There’s a relatively new technique called EFT (Emotional
Freedom Technique) that involves fingertip tapping on acupuncture
points, combined with focused thought. No needles, and you
do it for yourself. It’s easily and quickly learned
and completely portable. Tens of thousands of people have
used it effectively for all kinds of challenges, including
anxiety, day-to-day stress, weight control, self esteem issues,
fear of crowds, some kinds of pain, phobias, and many more.
EFT is a great tool to have when you’re pushing
yourself into new territory and taking new risks. It’s
a great tool to have when you’re facing up to the self-sabotaging
maneuvers you’ve unknowingly been using for years. It
can be a
great addition to any kind of coaching.
Local EFT workshops, conducted by psychologist Pat
Roe, are an easy and affordable way to learn EFT and practice
applying it to the fears that interfere with your dating success.
Call Pat at 303-756-9052 for more information and
a schedule of upcoming workshops. Or email her at email@example.com.
What Dr Jenn says: I've been
to one of Pat's workshops and I highly recommend you check
it out! It's helped me overcome several obstacles!
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meeting of Co-Ed Savvy
Singles Book Club!
Oct 26, 6:30pm
Coffee, I-25 and Colorado
Falling In Love For All The Right Reasons, by E-Harmony founder
don't even need to read the book!
people are saying: "The last book club discussion we
had was very interesting - Jennifer's a great group organizer
with amazing insights about relationships, and the book was
a good choice."
join or learn more visit: Sassy
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Love Along the Broken Road:
Revolutionary New Approach to Dating
October 19th, 6:30-9:30
Single again? Feeling like you’ll never find
love? Frustration and discouragement are high on the list
of single’s complaints. Come learn a revolutionary approach
to dating that will end your frustration, making your dating
journey into a successful adventure! Plus, discover the three
keys to avoiding the biggest dating mistakes that stand between
you and finding The One.
If you are serious about creating the loving relationship
you deserve, this is information you cannot afford to miss!
Cost of workshop: $15
per workshop for Cottonwood members, $20 per workshop for
Connection Office, 355 S. Teller St., Ste. #200 Lakewood,
CO 80226, 303 424-2300, www.cottonwoodconnection.com
for more info!
NEW Date* Coupling
the STAND OUT Internet Dating
the Attention You Deserve
New to Internet dating and not sure
how to get started? Been using Internet dating but not getting
the response you deserve? Join us for a look at the most common
profile mistakes and learn how to craft a profile that will
get you noticed!
Ah, the power of words...with the right
ones, you open up a world of possibilities and draw interesting,
attractive prospects. With the wrong ones, you'll send people
running for the hills even if you are Ms./Ms Wonderful. Or
worse yet, you'll be attracting the wrong type of responses.
This class will review plenty of real life examples of stand
out profiles as well as red flag alerts. Don't fall prey to
Introductory Cost: $15, payable by check
or credit card on Pay Pal
for more info or to register!
Date Smart! Keys to Dating Smarter, Not Harder
Using the Secrets of the Law of Attraction to Stay Positive
and Find Your Perfect Partner
October 30, 7:30pm, Mountain Time, (9:30
Learn more here: Date
Romance and/or Your Mate!
that glitters may turn to "gold" when 800 singles
(38 & over) deck out in gowns and tuxes to attend the
5th annual Black Tie Harvest Moon Ball on Saturday October
21 from 7:00 to 12:30 am at the Denver Marriott City Center
Colorado Ballroom, 18th & California.
Tickets (limited to 400 women, 400 men) are $48.00
in advance, $58.00 at the door. For more information or advanced
tickets call 303-649-9125, or check www.partiesbymarty.com.
Who knows...? You may find fomance or the love of
your life when your eyes meet across a crowded dance floor...Many
a confirmed bachelor/bacheloretter have been swept off their
feet and taken a walk down the isle as a result of the Harvest
Moon Ball! Dr. Jenn will be there- Hope to see YOU there!
ongoing projects are examining what it takes to have a happy,
long lasting marriage! Check out www.longmarriedcouples.com
for a photo essay on couples married 40+ years! Or follow
Jason and Mat- 2 bachelors- around the country as they interview
Marriage Masters- happy couples married at least 40 years!
Check out their documentary or sign up for their newsletter
They've been on the Today show and other national programs.
Check out the TV link to learn some love lessons from the
Bulletproof Your Love
Whether or not your relationship is
currently in trouble, it can help to identify your love's
strengths and weaknesses. Doing this can prevent trouble down
the road by addressing small issues before they become large.
Or if things are less than ideal now, it can help you tackle
the big problems so you can bring passion, romance, and connection
back into your life.
Cost: $75 per couple, $60 per individual
for more info.
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Jennifer Oikle, Ph.D.
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