Coupling Connection - Dr. Jenn Oikle
Coupling Connection - Dr. Jenn Oikle

How to Get Over a Break Up Quickly:
And Get Back On Track to True Love

Article by Jennifer Oikle, Ph.D.

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Breakups are known for the painful suffering involved. And of course there is going to be pain, there has been a loss that needs to be grieved.

But most of us aggravate this pain and turn it into true suffering by failing to accept reality 100%.

Think about how many hours our minds spend going over and over the if only's, it shoulda been’s, and it coulda been’s.

This keeps us holding onto some reality that just isn’t true (and sends some of us back to try again!).

But- you won't be able to move on until you fully accept the ONLY fact that matters: Your ex isn't The One and never will be the one because they didn't chose you.


Why would you want someone who isn't choosing you?- even if EVERYTHING else is PERFECT- that one fact ALONE- is the deal breaker.

Your ex may have been close to perfect in every other way- EXCEPT the thing that matters most: they don’t want to be with you. That's the deal breaker, my friend. And nothing else matters.

Action Step: The next time you go through a break up and you’re tempted to turn your pain into outright suffering, stop torturing yourself with all that was good about the relationship.

Every time your brain goes down that road- say to yourself "Stop! Obviously, they aren’t the One. And when I do find the One- they are going to be EVEN better!"

Focus on repeating this fact to yourself and accepting reality rather than the thoughts of how it could've been. Of course, this is much easier said than done- but the more you do it, the faster you’ll be able to let go and move on.

Which means the faster you'll be in your real Prince Charming's arms!

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